Two weeks ago, I challenged myself to a #14daysofme challenge wherein everyday I must pick one thing I love about myself, capture it in photo and share it via social media. While aware that this may appear to be narcissistic, I did it to not only change my own inner voice, but to encourage you to change yours. Positive self-talk is one of the most effective ways to improve depression and anxiety, but it takes a lot of work to change that negative inner-voice. The #14daysofme challenge was my answer to kicking off better habits and thoughts about myself.
The first two days were easy. It’s simple to find at least two things you like about yourself, but by the third day it started getting a little challenging. I began questioning anything I liked… What if I share this and everyone thinks “really? she likes that about herself?” What if I’m wrong? What if I sound cocky? What if I don’t like anything about myself? I almost asked Husband to help me out a few times, but I never never did. You know what? I found something everyday.
And, what’s more, everyone was super supportive. I cannot tell you how nervous I was to post each photo, but everyone single one was met with words of encouragement, agreement and even appreciation. It started getting easier to find what I like about myself. I began feeling more confident and am now very aware when that negative voice sneaks back in and tries to knock me down. THAT is a huge step in the right direction. Oh how, I hope hope hope my little challenge may have challenge one of you to do the same and change your inner voice!
By the end of the two weeks, I couldn’t stop thinking of things I like about myself. In fact, today, the final day, I had a list of things I could have shared, but after reading this beautiful essay by Glennon over at Momastery, I decided to appreciate my many faults. I highly recommend reading it if you have or know anyone who has any sort of mental illness. (addiction, anxiety, depression, etc).
Help us manage our fire, yes, but don’t try to extinguish us. That fire that almost killed us is the same fire we’ll use to light up the world. And so we don’t want you to take what we’ve got, we just want help learning how to use what we’ve got for good. – Glennon
(Funny, how you find just what you need at the exact right moment.)
So here it is, all 14 days of me…
Day 1 of my #14DaysOfMe challenge! I am determimed to change my inner voice, be more positive and kinder to myself. Read all about my challenge on the blog #linkinthebio TODAY I love my strength. I have worked hard to be healthy and strong, and I love that I have muscles to show for it! #loveyourself #selftalk #changeforthebetter #fitmom #strength #nomakeupselfie
Day 2 of my #14daysofme challenge. I love that I am brave. I have been brave many times in my life, but I am my bravest when I go to the doctor. This is my hypertension doctor. I saw him today and like always, he told me I'm ridiculous and need to calm down. He's my favorite. He totally gets me. #selftalk #innervoice #loveyourself #doctorphobia #bebrave
Day 3 of my #14daysofme challenge! I am a good teacher. I am no longer in a classroom, but while staying home with Luna I have been tutoring and teaching a sweet 12-year old boy to read. Today, we dyed eggs, used adjectives to desribe them and then used those adjectives to create interesting sentences. #teach #intergratedlearning #handson #intervention #progress #makelearningfun
Day 4 of my #14daysofme challenge! I love my legs! They have always been my fav body part. Plus, these legs have managed to carry me and my heavy backpack all over lots of countries, run over numerous finish lines and dance me around the house everyday. Thanks legs! #legs #loveyourself #selftalk #changeforthebetter #challenge
Day 5 of my #14daysofme challenge I love that I have learned to relax and enjoy a day of fun. Today, I walked several miles with a good friend, ate fries and cookies, played at the park, splashed in the bath with Luna and just enjoyed the day. Years ago this kind of day would have made me feel anxious and guilty, but now I have learned to appreciate and enjoy the downtime. #gome #selftalk #relax #enjoythemoment
Day 8 of my #14daysofme #challenge I think my greatest skill as a friend is being a good listener. I love my friends and I never tire of listening to their dramas, accomplishments, struggles, fights, adventures and endless stories. If you ever need to talk, I'm all ears! #selftalk #innervoice #change #listen #friendship
Day 9 of the #14daysofme #challenge I've got great lips. I used to hate them, especially the giant bottom one, but I've grown to love them. Now, Luna has inherited my lips and I think they are the best! (They are also the only resemblance she has of me.) Muah! #lips #loveyourself #selftalk #changeforthebetter
Day 10 of the #14daysofme #challenge I am always up for a challenge and ready to learn something new! Over the last year I've had to learn a lot about being a stay-at-home Mom (like how to cook). Most recently, I started learning how to garden. It may not looke like much, but these are some of my first plants, ever! #icandothis #foreverstudent #selftalk #changeforthebetter
Day 11 of the #14daysofme #challenge! My hair rocks! Growing up I had a lot of trouble trying to handle my thick wild locks and major cow lick. After years of practice and lots of hair tutorials I have learned how to style and care for it and I love my thick hair that can never decide if it's striaght or wavy or curly…or what color it wants to be 😉 #hair #alwayschanging #loveyourself #choosebeautiful #innervoice
Day 13 of the #14daysofme #challenge I am a very hard worker. I'm sure all my former employees have something negative to say about me (coffee spiller, rule bender, etc) BUT I am certain they would all agree that I am a hard worker. What can I say? I like a job well done. #wordstoliveby #selftalk #changeforthebetter #loveyourself
Day 14, the final day of the #14daysofme #challenge Today I love and embrace my flaws. They are what makes me unique, and while they can often get me down, I'm learning to use them and see them positively. I have anxiety and panic attacks, but I am learning to use these powers for the greater good instead of letting them use me. #innervoice #selftalk #changeforthebetter #superpowers #anxiety #loveyourself
The challenge may be over, but it’s just the beginning to my new habit of loving and encouraging myself. What’s more, is this little boost of confidence is already empowering me to encourage and remind others how they too, are beautiful and wonderful. Like, you. You, my friend are beautiful, brave, kind and strong. And don’t you forget it.