Mental Pictures

Today marks exactly one month until our wedding day. ONE MONTH!  I cannot believe how quickly this last year has flown by! But, more than that I cannot believe the amount of planning it takes to make your dream wedding come true. Oy!

For what seems like an eternity, I have listened to girl after girl complain about planning their wedding. “I just can’t wait for this to be over!” or “This wedding planning is soooo stressful!” , and the famous “I wish we would have just eloped!”

I was always annoyed hearing these statements. Isn’t this supposed to be the happiest time of your life? Shouldn’t planning a party for all of your favorite people to celebrate you and your fiancé/husband be fun? How can you complain, you are about to marry the person of your dreams, right!?!?

I can honestly say that MOST of my wedding planning experience has been fun, fairly painless, and only a tiny bit stressful. I am not very picky. My bridesmaids can wear what they want, as long as it’s yellow. Actually everyone (guys, girls, moms, dads, etc) are free to dress how they please. I picked my dress in October, the perfect shoes were on sale in November, and I had the BEST photographer do my bridal portraits.

It hasn’t all been easy breezy though. We had lots of mishaps happen throughout the year…

Our photographer who took our engagement pictures (he won the Pulitzer three times!) was a jerk and could care less about us looking good in our pictures. My hair was “accidently” cut 4 inches too short. Disney overcharges for EVERYTHING. Sorry, Disney, I still love you, but we both know its true. To save some cash we had to cut a lot of things we had originally planned on having… hope no one expects cake, chairs, or air conditioning! (just kidding…mostly). And, because our wedding is a “destination wedding”, there are lots of loved ones that cannot make the trip, which makes us sad, but is certainly understandable.

Even though, we have had to make LOTS of changes, we are both cool with this. We have to take public transportation to the ceremony? We can do that. Our cake is going to be sheet cake hidden in the kitchen? Cool. Mother-in-law-to-be wants to dress like a pirate? No problem! As long as their’s food, good music, everyone is having a good time, and the bride  we are the center of attention, we’re happy.

Yup…all of this has been true…mostly….

Up until now. One month before the wedding. 31 days until we become husband and wife. 4 and a half weeks left before every single thing we have been planning, and are still planning, has to come together perfectly.

I have tried REALLY hard to take on numerous wedding tasks all year. I’ve stayed on top of my to-do list, yet somehow I am still left with exactly 1,877,452,221 things left to do, and I only have one month to do them! I really think it’s only fair that a bride gets marital-leave from work the month before her wedding!

It’s not just me either. Fiance is feeling the pressure, and we have been fighting over the most ridiculous things!

Recently a co-worker of mine told me a story of a close guy friend who called freaking out the week before his wedding.  He said he was going to call of the wedding because all he and his fiancé wanted to do was punch each other in the face because they could not decide on the seating chart. He wanted to hurt the love of his life because they could not agree on the seating chart for their wedding! 

Sounds extreme, but I totally get where he’s coming from. *FYI, they did not punch each other, and they did get married.*

The other night, Fiance and I stopped speaking to each other over something as trivial as the seating chart. When we finally said sorry and made up, I decided that enough was enough. We cannot allow ourselves to become one of the “I can’t wait until this is all over!” couples. It’s time to enjoy each moment more moments (gotta be realistic here). After all, this is the only time we will ever get to be an engaged couple and plan our wedding.

You know when Jim and Pam get married? (If you don’t watch The Office, you will not get this reference, and you should probably come out of that rock you’ve been hiding under.) Anyways, in this episode they decide to take “mental pictures” throughout their wedding day to remember their favorite moments.

This is my goal over the next month, take as many mental pictures as possible. The only downside is that you cannot see my mental pictures. Guess I’ll have to do my best to describe them!

My favorite over the last few days was “taken” the night Fiance and I were trying to decide on a song for when our bridal party is introduced at the reception. We want something really fun, new-ish, popular enough for people to know, not cheesy, very dancey, etc etc. This has been one of the more difficult decisions. So, to help with the decision making process, Fiance attached his computer to our big screen, played numerous music videos of our favorite songs, while loudly announcing our bridesmaids and groomsmen.

“Here come Danica and Teddy!!!!” “Put your hand in the air for Natalie and Derek!!!” “Ladies and gentlemen, get out of your chairs for Zoey and Steve!”

I clapped and hooted and hollered for everyone, and it all ended with lots of dancing around the living room.


Fiance got most of the names wrong, but we did decide on a song. Next on the list? The seating chart. Fiance, I hope you’ve got another entertaining trick up your sleeve.

Cheers and Best Wishes!

7 Replies to “Mental Pictures”

  1. Planning a wedding is fun for about 5 seconds. Then you realize you don’t have enough money or time. If you think it’s going to cost about $300 dollars, it will end up really costing $1200.

    1. Yes, and Pinterest makes it look so much easier than it actually is!

  2. Make sure you take lots of “real” pictures for my mom and I to include in your wedding present! Also be sure to save all the little things (congrats cards, an extra invitation, an extra wedding program, etc.) that you want to remember in the future. Including some planning mementos etc.

    1. I’ve already got a bag full of goodies that you can use! I can’t wait to see what you create!

  3. […] life. My daily struggle with anxiety has been mostly ignored. Sure, I joke about freaking out over wedding programs or being a HotMess, but I could, or perhaps should, delve a little deeper. In fact, I could be a […]

  4. Ahhhh…loved the name shout-out! Your wedding will be beautiful and it’s crazy how fast it goes. There were times I looked at pics from my wedding and I thought “wait, when did I dance when that person?!” ha seems like a big whirl..but a fun one 🙂 I can’t wait for the wedding of the decade!

    1. Thanks Danc! I am soooo excited too!!! We are going to have a blast!

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